First, those adapters are only required if you can't find a way to connect your fuel source to the hothead with locally available parts. You have already done this, so the parts are not necessary in your case.
I believe flames coming out of the holes is a symptom of low pressure. Combined with the inconsistent flame, suggests that you might have liquid in your hoses.
I'm not sure what to say about the incorrect flame. I have heard that the "newer" hot head version (as in past ten or fifteen years new rather than five years new) have less sensitive valves that are harder to control from fully open. I would suggest getting a throttle valve (a needle valve for metering flow as opposed to a disc or gate valve) and using that in combination with the torch valve.
Otherwise, try information from the inventor of the hot head at
http://hotheadsource.com/HHtorch.html . I have recently heard that the Technical Information links on the site are not working, but when I tried it the same day, it worked for me, but is not working right now, so I guess there are some intermittent problems with the site. In any case, the site says to email her (Cindy Jenkins) with questions. Before someone disputes the "inventor" part and says that hot heads are available from many sources, the hot head body is a common brazing or plumber's torch, but from what I can tell, Cindy Jenkins has modified an internal part (the orifice plate) to make the orifice indented and also add a mesh strainer screen. This modified version comes in a box with a yellow "Hot Head" label.
Note: the current Hot Head instructions may say not to disassemble the Hot Head. I have heard some newer models have thread locking compound, but do not have that experience first hand.
From the Hot Head site:
Warranty: Conditions for free replacement of your Hot Head Bead Torch:
If You are the original owner and the torch is no more than 5 years old.
If the Hot Head failed due to errors in design, manufacturing or was damage in shipping.
Please call or email us if you have any problem with your Hot Head. We are here for you and will assist technically in any way we can.
We will happily replace your Hot Head if it has a problem which originates with its design, manufacture or shipping. We willing supply
guidance for maintaining, troubleshooting, cleaning or moving your Hot Head to a “bulk tank fuel delivery system”.
NOTE: Don't taking your Hot Head Torch apart, submerging it in any fluid, or subject it to any treatment designed to modify its behavior or
clean it. This can damage the torch and will negate this warranty. Call us first.
International customers: Sorry, We can not return international calls, only e-mails.